I have had the privilege to connected with Ngina from Intentional Today through mutual blogging friends. I found out that she was just releasing her book Blues to Bliss which is all about “creating your happily-ever-after in the early years [of marriage]”. I knew I wanted to get my hands on a copy to be able to share it with you all!
I will be honest. When I thought about reading it I was in the mode of reading it for our community. I thought it would be a great book to pull some thoughts from and share with our newlyweds in the group. I am all for learning new things and am a student at heart, but for some reason I exempted myself since Ryan and I have been married a few years now. But I have to say from the moment I started reading the book I felt like God was saying, “See this is for you too!” At first I had a little resistance in reading it. Not because it wasn’t good, but because some things were striking me to the core and I had to take them in. However, I decided to embrace each nugget of wisdom with a positive outlook and allow this book to grow our marriage.
Reading doesn’t happen as often as I would like right now so I am still in the midst of reading Blues to Bliss. I just had to share some of the goodness though! Below are some quotes from the book that really hit home to me.
We need to put on our big girl pants – or dresses – and realize that intentional work is what bridges the gap between the dreams in our heads and in the reality of married life. p. 19
This was a great reminder to me that marriage takes work. This can be referring to the big dreams of a marriage with a completely different dynamic or the dream of more focused attention. Either way, big or small issues, take work.
While we all struggle from time to time, God does not want you to be defined by your struggle or pain. p. 25
I mean come on I KNOW this, but for some reason when I read this line it was so comforting.
The thing about expectations is that we often fail to talk about them aloud. We generally hope our husbands will figure it out. But in the shortest route to an unfulfilled expectation is keeping quiet. p. 47
With me being pretty self-sufficient and independent I don’t call on Ryan for a lot of things. He said something the other day that made me realize that he thinks and believes all is well in my little world unless I tell him otherwise. I have come to understand I have to be open and honest about needs, wants and expectations. He is more than willing to do anything for Miss M and I he just has to be aware.
God won’t hold you responsible for your husband’s actions or inactions but He will hold you responsible for yours. p. 76
Oh. my. goodness. Slap in the face. Sometimes I get caught up in what Ryan is or isn’t doing, but instead I need to focus on my own actions.
Over the next few weeks I will be sharing some more snippets from this book on social media as I work my way through the rest of it. I have been reading it on the treadmill while I run ensure I have the time to finish it!
If you want to read this wonderful resources in its entirety you can get it on Amazon right now on Kindle or a paperback.
What quote that I shared did you like the most?
Until Next Time- Truly Love,