First off: HAPPY FOURTH OF JULY!!!!!
For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhahn is a must read for all women! Although I will tell you now you have to be open minded on some of the topics. When I finished up the book I had a deeper understanding and a new perspective. I have thought back to this book many times. Over the next few weeks we will have “Women Only Wednesdays” where I go through the book chapter by chapter and share the new insights I gained from this book. Today, I will go over chapter 1 and 2.
“Chapter 1- Lightbulb on!- How I Woke Up to What I Didn’t Know About Men”
In this chapter Shaunti tells how she was writing a book and started asking men questions to get a better understanding of men so that she could make her character as realistic as possible. She started receiving interesting information which intrigued her to do more research. She then continued doing research so that she could better understand the men in her life. She later published this book in hopes of helping other women.
“Chapter two- Your Love is Not Enough- Why Your Respect Means More to Him than Even Your Affection”
This chapter put it in perspective quickly when it said that most women take “I love you.” as a deep meaningful statement where as when men are respected they have that same feeling. Just as women expect their husbands to love them unconditionally, men expect their wives to respect them unconditionally. Respecting our husbands come in several different forms: respecting his judgement, respecting his abilities, respecting him in our communication (with him and when we speak about him), and respecting our husbands when we make assumptions.
What do I mean when I say respect your husband when we make assumptions! ”My husband is late. He must have been watching the game AGAIN.” That could be considered an assumption that is not respecting your husband. Instead think, “My husband is late. I hope he ok. I am sure he is late for a good reason.”
Lastly and most importantly: Respect your husband in public! Throughout the surveys Shaunti received back this seemed to be the most important to men. Showing that we are behind our husbands 100%, trusting their judgement, having confidence in their abilities and respecting them as we talk meant the most to men.
Remember not only to say that you respect your husband, but also show that you respect them!
I will leave you with a quote from the chapter,
She has to make me feel respected so that I can command respect out in the world. If she defeats me emotionally, I can’t win the race and bring home the prize for her.
Check back next Wednesday for “For Women Only” by Shaunti Feldhahn book review on “Chapter 3- The Performance of a Lifetime- Why Your Mr. Smooth Looks So Impressive but Feels Like an Impostor” and “Chapter 4- The Loneliest Burden- How His Need to Provide Weighs Your Man Down, and Why He Likes It That Way.”
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